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Mum sparks outrage after revealing she has a favourite son
A MUM-OF-TWO has taken to parenting forum Mumsnet, to ask if it's "normal" to have a favourite child.
Explaining she finds it hard to disguise her feelings, the mum asked whether other users could relate - and fellow parents were divided on the issue.
"I am ashamed to say this... but I really do have a favourite child," the mum explained.
"I have two sons and the oldest (three) is a real struggle for me and has been from day one.
"He is so intense and determined and he really overwhelms me.
"My [husband] is blessed with patience and really does a lot more of the hard graft. They have a great bond."
"I really enjoy my second son (18 months), I feel like I understand him perfectly and I am 100 per cent the most qualified to care for him in any situation," she continued.
"I try really hard to disguise my feelings.
"For example, I always take my older son shopping, just the two of us and allow him to scan the shop.
"I organise lots of play dates but I feel like I am really trying to force a bond I just can't make.
"My own mother was cruelly unfair to my older sister and I really thought I could be a bigger person.
"Has anyone else ever felt like this?"
The post has since divided fellow Mumsnet users, with many admitting they felt the same.
One wrote: "I love my two oldest teens to bits. They are kind, caring, funny and good company.
"My youngest, however, is nothing like any of us and I don't really like him very much."
While another said: "Yes I do. It's human nature. I don't love them any differently I just prefer parenting one of my girls over the other.
"She is a joy to be around whilst my other is very difficult and always has been."
Others, however, were shocked - with one calling the thread "scary".
"Oh god this thread is scary. Those poor babies," they wrote.
"'Oh but I don't show it' - yes you do."
Another agreed: "Taking a three year old shopping won't make up for the fact you think he's doing something 'wrong'."
While a recent study showed that one in five parents have a favourite child, many users suggested that the mum could be suffering from postnatal depression - which affects one in 10 mums - and advised seeking help.
One wrote: "Honestly? There is absolutely nothing a pre-schooler could do, or present with, or behave like, which would make them less in need of - or deserving of - whole-hearted love from his or her mother.
"Most mothers do feel passionately in love with their babies and toddlers, irrespective of how challenging (or ill or disabled) they are.
"Rationalising your feelings is completely normal.
"PTSD or PNS having this effect makes total sense. This is not your fault.
"But I think you need some outside help to correct this before it solidifies into a dysfunctional family dynamic."
Another agreed, suggesting the mum seek help "before patterns set".
One noted: "I will say that no matter how hard you try to hide it your children will know as they get older.
"I certainly did with my parents and it left me with a massive resentment towards them.
"Seeking help now would benefit both your children."
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