MOST women get fed up with men ghosting them, but others can’t get enough of things that go hump in the night.

Reports of spectrophilia – sexual encounters with spirits – are on the rise.

For some the passion is a passing fling. Others find emotions can run deep and decide to give up real men for orgasms with a phantasm.

Two women tell Kate Jackson how spirit sex is out of this world.

And a ghost hunter and psychotherapist share their expert insight.

Amethyst Realm

AMETHYST claims to have had more than 20 phantom flings – even joining the Mile High Club with her latest spirit partner.

The 30-year-old counsellor, from Nottingham, says: "My new ghost lover is really special – wise, stable and kind. I am not 100 per cent sure if it is male or female, but I have found true love.

"We met when I went on a trip to Australia earlier this year. Spirits usually remain in one place, but I am delighted this one followed me back to the UK. I was happy and excited. So excited, in fact, we headed to the plane loo – and I am now a member of the Mile High Club.

"Orgasms I have with my spirit lovers have been way deeper and more satisfying than any I’ve had with ordinary men. I have given up sleeping with human men. Ghost sex is deeper, more passionate and, oddly, seems more natural.

"You sense the presence, can feel the energy and, although there’s no body to touch, you can sense that you’re being touched. I know it sounds crazy but I’ve been looking into having a ghost baby – and I don’t think it’s totally out of the question.

"I believe phantom pregnancies – where a woman experiences pregnancy symptoms when there is no foetus – is actually a ghost baby. I have always had the ability to communicate with the supernatural and first started having spiritual sex when I was 18 and engaged.

"I was getting undressed for bed when I suddenly felt fingers fluttering their way down my spine and a soft whispering sound – but no words – from behind, in my right ear. It made me shudder all over, but in a really nice way.

"The next thing I knew I was being turned around and embraced. The energy was all-consuming and before I knew it I was on the bed in the throes of ghost-induced ecstasy.

"My engagement ended when my fiancé returned one afternoon to find me in bed, wearing stockings, suspenders, a basque and a tiny G-string. He believed I was hiding a lover, of the flesh-and-blood kind, and ransacked the room looking for him.

"That’s when I told him. I said he would never be able to find him because the “man” he was looking for was a ghost. He immediately packed his belongings and left.

"After that I decided that real men were more trouble than they’re worth and that ghost lovers were the way forward. They can’t buy me flowers or take me out to dinner, but they make me feel special in other ways. One drew hearts in condensation on my window.

"I am not the only one to prefer spirit lovers and have offered counselling to people going through rough patches in their relationships with ghosts."

Sian Jameson

ALTHOUGH currently dating a living man, Sian, 26, claims to have had passionate sex with a ghost from the 19th century.

The copywriter, who lives in London, says: "After splitting from my long-term boyfriend three years ago I rented a 16th century cottage in Aberystwyth, in west Wales. I was immediately taken by the painting of a handsome man above the mantelpiece, which dated back to 1820.

"A few months after I’d moved in, I woke one morning to find a dark-haired, very good-looking young man lying next to me. He was fully clothed – in a loose, white shirt, a neck scarf and old-fashioned breeches.

"He had a kind of shimmer to him as if he was behind a fluttering voile curtain. I told myself I was dreaming and rolled away from him. As I faced the wall, I slowly realised I wasn’t asleep and, suddenly, I was frozen with fear.

"I felt a hand on my waist but the touch was strange – light and cool. I looked at the man again and realised he was the one from the painting. We ended up making love for an hour. He was very gentle.

"Even when he moved on top of me, pressing down, he felt almost weightless. It was very strange, but the sex was amazing.

"We made love three times before he vanished forever. I sobbed when he left. I guess I had fallen in love.

"When I told a couple of close friends about it they looked at me as if I was mad.

"So I just laughed it off, said something about eating too much cheese, then kept quiet after."